Maybe the idea of love is intriguing. Perhaps it’s the unknown that we’re drawn to?
I honestly think we're all born not believing in love. It’s like this far away place that our imagination takes us to. We build this aura around it, and in our heads we over-think and over-populate our minds into thinking it could be real.
It's our upbringing; how we were raised by our parents that gives us this crazy desire for love.
My opinion is that humanity might have fallen in love with the idea of love, and passed it on from generation to generation.
When we do find what we think is love, the build-up to finally getting to that point is so intense, that we latch onto it and try to never let it go.
I will drift off topic and just say that, the most powerful feeling is hope. Hope of a better tomorrow, hope of getting into heaven, hope of staying clear of hell. Hope of finding that one true love.
We hope that we can regain that initial spark that we and our significant other once shared.
Love, fueled by the fire of hope, can be a highly powerful force. Hope is what drives us human beings, and by this feeling called hope is what will make us stick through our so called 'love'.
Love is an extremely vague term. I solely believe its only about compromise and understanding. It's just way too naïve to think that you'll be in love forever. So my conclusion to this fucked up piece is that when you do fall out of love with your partner, can you make them fall in love with you again?
People change. As we grow up, we grow different.
Times change. Things around us affect us and how we treat our significant other.
Memories fade and are replaced by newer (probably less exciting) ones.
All of this takes a toll on love until eventually it’s just not there any more, or a different type of love is created.
That initial spark dies and is replaced by a love built out of convenience and maybe even one built from trust. Passionate love is replaced by complacent love. Many will realize this and will split up in the hopes of finding that “better” love. Others will choose not to split up for whatever reasons they may have. Fear is probably the biggest motivator here.
By now you should know that I understand everyone has a different opinion about this extremely vast topic we're talking about, however I think we can all agree that it has one common destination: Marriage.
Let's just touch on this subject quickly.
I know happily married couples, full stop. They've been married a while now and its hard work.
This blog I'm writing isn't for shits and giggles.
You know I can't sugar-coat this but marriage isn't what we thought it would be. The value of a relationship has changed from what it used to be.
It has changed. Just like our culture has moved from being one of quality products, to being a generation obsessed with instant gratification. We all live a McDonald’s life. We place our orders now and want our burger in 5 minutes. People tend to choose the latter, and people are opting more for quantity than quality, love is not an illusion... just harder to find. Why? I think that we have society to blame for it. And fucking movies.
Unfortunately we've evolved as humans and our brains eliminate what the possibilities and probabilities are if they don't suit us. In layman's terms we create pro's and con's, and using that we establish what can work and what cannot work.
So back to love; I hate this fucking word. It's meaningless if it can't last forever. Take a chance, that's what life's about right? What if 15 years down the line your partner packs up and leaves? They found some hot number that just does it for them. Your partner has decided to take a chance, and where does that leave you?
Why is it that second marriages work out better? Do we mature after being hurt? Are we evolving too quickly? Are we just taking the leap of faith with our significant other too soon?
People say its fear; fear of being let down, fear of letting your feelings go, fear of losing someone you gave your all to, fear of not finding another, fear of being cheated on, fear of putting someone before you, fear of feeling needy of someone else...
There's no ignoring facts and the stats on divorce rates are astonishing. I just call it like I see it, and its not fear its wisdom. Good sex obviously lengthens the years of being in love or in the actual relationship , but did u ever wonder what your relationship would've been like without sex? Do we fall in love with sex itself? Can you picture having a relationship without sex, wait let me guess your answer..
NO! I'm good right?
Great sex can fix bad relationships. Great sex even saves marriages. But when (and notice how I said when) a stage comes in your relationship where you think that you're being treated like a slut just for sex, let him pay. I'd like to say I have a non bias opinion about life and love and situations. The thing is, love is blind. Love is a made up. I've seen love, I've felt heartbreak and there's nothing great about love. People say that there are soul mates out there for us, I'd like to believe that too, but unfortunately I'm a realist. I hope you not reading this thinking, this guy is so negative, thats because you probably 18 – 25 years old, single, in a relationship or possibly happily married, but really your life has only started.
Have you ever heard of the saying 'there is no love without tragedy'?
There is no love without tragedy.
Well this is my 1st piece and I didn't want to get carried away hahahaha so hopefully you'll be waiting for my next piece.
"mi línea de pensamiento ha pasado
my train of thought has passed"
I honestly think we're all born not believing in love. It’s like this far away place that our imagination takes us to. We build this aura around it, and in our heads we over-think and over-populate our minds into thinking it could be real.
It's our upbringing; how we were raised by our parents that gives us this crazy desire for love.
My opinion is that humanity might have fallen in love with the idea of love, and passed it on from generation to generation.
When we do find what we think is love, the build-up to finally getting to that point is so intense, that we latch onto it and try to never let it go.
There's a time period on love and its always going to catch you. The question is, when the hour is upon you, are you in too deep?
The intensity that built you up to this moment, this chasing love, finding love, connecting with soul-mates, will that be the spark to keep your relationship alive?
After the spark dies, does the relationship die along with it?
I will drift off topic and just say that, the most powerful feeling is hope. Hope of a better tomorrow, hope of getting into heaven, hope of staying clear of hell. Hope of finding that one true love.
We hope that we can regain that initial spark that we and our significant other once shared.
Love, fueled by the fire of hope, can be a highly powerful force. Hope is what drives us human beings, and by this feeling called hope is what will make us stick through our so called 'love'.
Love is an extremely vague term. I solely believe its only about compromise and understanding. It's just way too naïve to think that you'll be in love forever. So my conclusion to this fucked up piece is that when you do fall out of love with your partner, can you make them fall in love with you again?
People change. As we grow up, we grow different.
Times change. Things around us affect us and how we treat our significant other.
Memories fade and are replaced by newer (probably less exciting) ones.
All of this takes a toll on love until eventually it’s just not there any more, or a different type of love is created.
That initial spark dies and is replaced by a love built out of convenience and maybe even one built from trust. Passionate love is replaced by complacent love. Many will realize this and will split up in the hopes of finding that “better” love. Others will choose not to split up for whatever reasons they may have. Fear is probably the biggest motivator here.
By now you should know that I understand everyone has a different opinion about this extremely vast topic we're talking about, however I think we can all agree that it has one common destination: Marriage.
Let's just touch on this subject quickly.
I know happily married couples, full stop. They've been married a while now and its hard work.
This blog I'm writing isn't for shits and giggles.
You know I can't sugar-coat this but marriage isn't what we thought it would be. The value of a relationship has changed from what it used to be.
It has changed. Just like our culture has moved from being one of quality products, to being a generation obsessed with instant gratification. We all live a McDonald’s life. We place our orders now and want our burger in 5 minutes. People tend to choose the latter, and people are opting more for quantity than quality, love is not an illusion... just harder to find. Why? I think that we have society to blame for it. And fucking movies.
Unfortunately we've evolved as humans and our brains eliminate what the possibilities and probabilities are if they don't suit us. In layman's terms we create pro's and con's, and using that we establish what can work and what cannot work.
So back to love; I hate this fucking word. It's meaningless if it can't last forever. Take a chance, that's what life's about right? What if 15 years down the line your partner packs up and leaves? They found some hot number that just does it for them. Your partner has decided to take a chance, and where does that leave you?
Why is it that second marriages work out better? Do we mature after being hurt? Are we evolving too quickly? Are we just taking the leap of faith with our significant other too soon?
People say its fear; fear of being let down, fear of letting your feelings go, fear of losing someone you gave your all to, fear of not finding another, fear of being cheated on, fear of putting someone before you, fear of feeling needy of someone else...
There's no ignoring facts and the stats on divorce rates are astonishing. I just call it like I see it, and its not fear its wisdom. Good sex obviously lengthens the years of being in love or in the actual relationship , but did u ever wonder what your relationship would've been like without sex? Do we fall in love with sex itself? Can you picture having a relationship without sex, wait let me guess your answer..
NO! I'm good right?
Great sex can fix bad relationships. Great sex even saves marriages. But when (and notice how I said when) a stage comes in your relationship where you think that you're being treated like a slut just for sex, let him pay. I'd like to say I have a non bias opinion about life and love and situations. The thing is, love is blind. Love is a made up. I've seen love, I've felt heartbreak and there's nothing great about love. People say that there are soul mates out there for us, I'd like to believe that too, but unfortunately I'm a realist. I hope you not reading this thinking, this guy is so negative, thats because you probably 18 – 25 years old, single, in a relationship or possibly happily married, but really your life has only started.
Have you ever heard of the saying 'there is no love without tragedy'?
There is no love without tragedy.
Well this is my 1st piece and I didn't want to get carried away hahahaha so hopefully you'll be waiting for my next piece.
"mi línea de pensamiento ha pasado
my train of thought has passed"
