The Friendzone

As you may know by now, this is a very dark and gloomy place for so many people both guys and girls, although, this somewhat sad place is mostly visited by men rather than women.

The thing guys need to understand is that when a women friendzones you, it’s basically a sort of lie. When a guy friendzones a girl, it's as if they are breaking up for good.

But when the roles are reversed it's totally okay. Sexist to say the least, but that's the world we live in.

What women do is they act like they don't really know what's going on in terms of how you feel towards them, but it's just their way of telling their less attractive male friends to fuck off in a way that's not as hurtful.
Unless she's thirsty, of course.

Sometimes you've got to recognize that she's just not into you bro, and she doesn't want to be a bitch about the situation.
If ever you're trapped in a situation like this, there is almost no hope for you.
Please guys, don't put girls in a situation where they can play the pity card on you.
It's so sad.
Just move the fuck on, that's all.

Although, guys have waited for years and they have made it out of the friendzone, so maybe I should take that back because it looks like there may be some hope for you.
But the key word in that situation is 'patience'.
The question is, are you willing to wait 5 - 10 years?
"Fuck no!"- I hope that was your answer.

Some of you may think you are stuck in the friendzone, (note how I said some of you), when you're actually not.
Truth is, you're actually holding pocket aces, and you're folding before the flop.
In Poker terminology this means that basically she's waiting for you to make the first move, you scared little fucker, and you are the one putting yourself in the friendzone by backing down too easily.

To all the heart-broken girls stuck in the friendzone (and trust me, the friendzone does break hearts), when you least expect it, something great will happen for you, out of pure faith in yourself firstly, and pure belief in your happiness, it will happen.

Generally, the majority of guys do not have platonic friendships with the other sex. You might be friends, get along well together and have no awkward moments or intentions of taking it further, BUT there was definitely one moment in the friendship when he thought: “I'd actually fuck her”.

Obviously there are exceptions to the rule.

With guys, our intention isn't to fall for someone we cannot have, but we do anyways, which is why this is one of the major contributing factors to many friendzone cases.
It's natural, it's in our nature (Blurred Lines, anyone?) to want something we cannot have.
You would think it's harmless but this does have its repercussions.

Too many guys go around talking shit about the girls to other guys.
We all know that they are talking shit.
Chances are they got dealt the friendship card, and now they're trying to act tough about it.
Please don't talk shit about girls whether you've been with them or not.
Don't be THAT guy.

Guys find themselves in the friendzone because they aren't able to read girls.
They can't read her eyes; her body language; and guys can't make decisions.
You cannot be afraid of taking control.
Most women like it when you take control.
In this day and age when women are so used to having to take care of themselves and everyone else, they just want you to step up and do the work for once.

Too many men are also afraid of rejection.
If you're scared of rejection, you may never move out of the friendzone unfortunately.
Just like in Poker, you can't win unless you play.
All you have to do is learn to bluff.
If you're afraid to bruise that little ego of yours, don't come onto her.
It's that simple.

You'll be surprised to hear that being put in the friendzone is actually worse for women than it is for men.
I say that women feel it worse because the one feeling women hate is feeling desperate.
I am generalizing here when I say this, but girls tend to be too insecure about themselves, and a girl doesn't want to feel like she's trying too hard to make someone like her when that person is not really interested.
Going out there on a limb and getting the friendship card? Ouch.
Something as simple as that can affect her self-esteem for years to come, whereas guys will generally just bounce back and move on to the next one.

That is why I say that as males, we deal better with being put in the friendzone.
We learn to roll with the punches and don't let something like this phase us too much.

Girls have a way of knowing when you're into them, but they'll keep you guessing for long periods of time, never letting you know whether you stand a chance with them or not.
This is why men are easier to read than women.
Women are the masters of hiding what they feel, confusing the hell out of some guys, but it's only because they are scared of being emotionally naked in front of a guy and then having him reject her.

You as the guy need to judge where you stand with your 'friend'.
You best up your skills and learn to be more accurate, but that comes with time.
One can never truly know what goes on in the mind of a woman.
You just need to feel it; sense what she feels.
One thing is for sure though, her eyes can't lie.

In some cases it's pretty much a lost cause.
You're fighting a losing battle, and you just need to let go.
In other cases I can understand that it may be too late because you are already in too deep.
"You're so deep in the friendzone that you've already met her boyfriend's parents".
Lol, whatever the case may be, you need to evaluate and execute your actions appropriately.
Even though your romantic advances could backfire on you, as I've said before: "There is no love without tragedy", somehow all roads lead to love once again, ladies and gentlemen.
It's all connected.
Just like how you and I are somehow connected.

Maybe you will get over what you once thought you felt for that person.
Maybe you can learn to just be friends with them.
I'd just like to point out though that psychology claims if two past lovers can remain friends, it’s either they are still in love, or never were.

But like myself and Tom Ford would say: "Baby, we've got enough friends".

Inception Of Thoughts

"The gesture Namaste represents the belief that there is a Divine spark within each of us that is located in the heart".
I'm starting with this quote because I think it resonates with my aim of this blog.
There is a divine spark within each of us, and that is the desire to find love.
From all the movies we've seen, there seems to be an understanding that greeting with "Namaste" is a way of saying "I come in peace", which is exactly true in this case.

I read through the comments that you guys posted, and there wasn't any specific reason as to why I have not responded to them even though some of you asked for a response.
I just moved past it, thinking of my next piece, plotting and planning it.
I get why you guys were so passionate with your responses to my last post.
Love is an important thing to all of us, so it makes sense as to why I may have struck a nerve with some of you.

I think that the story I'm telling, or the morals of my pieces, should be liberating for women and men; to have insight into how human beings act in their natural state when it comes to matters of the heart.
It was and is suppose to help lift a veil from your eyes.

No hatred. No hurt. No insults. 

Just the raw truth and nothing else.
That's why I used the name Where Art Thine Truth.

Where is your truth?

This is mine.
I chose to show you my truth, to help you find yours.

I think what I'm writing about could be a key to the thought processes of the male and female species, and with that in mind, I would hope that you try and read through the posts and approach them with an open mind.
Look at all of this as a little friendly advice, set out for your benefit.
Try and read my pieces and see the intent of them.

Be free.
Let yourself go.
Let your heart be free.
Do not choose love, let it choose you.
Release your mind into your own mind.
Create happiness with yourself.
Feel love actually touch you.
Go, believe in yourself.
Imagine destiny.
Rewind fate.
Be brave and also true, not only for yourself.
Be wise and also naïve.

I say this because love, my friends, does not come from your heart. It is a non-tangible creation of our imagination, manifested into a reality.
We create love.
The only advice that I can give you is choose wisely.

Be with someone who fulfills your mind.
Be with someone who you can laugh with uncontrollably.
Be with someone who suffers more than you do if you guys don't speak.
Be with someone who knows all your insecurities; all your weaknesses; all your strengths; someone who doesn't take advantage of that to use it against you.
Be with someone who loves listening to your stupid stories.

Be with someone who irritates you, but who you can't help but miss when you're not together.
Be with someone who you can call your own.
Marry someone who is your best friend.
I know you probably thinking: "Urg, how cliché", but there's a reason why sayings are cliché, because they are fucking true.

As humans, we have so little control over how we feel, or how much we love, or how little love we give someone.

The next time we fall in love we don't know if it's any "wiser or worser" for us, we don't and cannot know the effect it will have on us; it will still be a part of the unknown.

We thrive on feeling whole, and we are all searching for that one person that "completes us".

We thrive on the possibilities of what the unknown can bring.
This is why we chase love.
We need to feel liberated into finding that crazy, passionate love that we so badly crave.

This is what makes our existence so beautiful.

Our lives can change dramatically or end at any moment, which is exactly why we are all hopeless romantics.

Always remember that your choices in life have a ripple effect.
Love and life is a game and everyone wants to win.
We are all players in this game, and the only thing that separates us are the prizes we're hoping for.

Imagine a life without love; a life without adventure.
Imagine a life without lust; a life without sex.
Imagine a life without trust.
Imagine a life without pure beauty.
Can you imagine that?

No.

So yes, I was truly amazed by the remarks and response to my previous post and how you guys are taking it, but know that I will continue to write.
This blog will not only contain substance, but it will also make you question yourself.
It will leave you wondering what you are in control of, and exactly how much control you actually have.
By giving you the truth, I'm bringing back the art of reading, and you my readers, are joining me on this little journey.

And that's why I've chosen to write, for ladies and gentlemen we have started an epidemic.

We have created a niche blog.
My story that I'll be telling will be truthful.
It will be a story about the other gender.
It will be about love and hope and heartbreak.
It will be about relationships and fun times.
But most importantly it will be about you and I.

I think I'll leave it at that for now.
Mi línea de pensamiento ha pasado - my train of thought has passed.

NAMASTE: 

My soul honours your soul.
I honour the place in where
The entire universe resides.
I honour the light, love, truth,
Beauty & peace within you,
Because it is also within me.
In sharing these things
We are united, we are the same,
We are one.

Where Art Thine Truth?

I want to write about everything. But most importantly I want to help enlighten what is dark. I want my readers to benefit from what I have to say, so that you can have a better understanding about love, lust, and how to go about handling the different situations around them.

I am a man.

Men are dogs.

We will look at ladies all the time.
And NO ladies, trust me, you do not want to know what we talk about AT ALL. It's disgusting, hahaha.

Have you ever seen a female dog on heat? She rubs her privates all over the place.
If that garage gate opens up, watch how she will run out and fuck the first dog she finds, 
(I read that somewhere though. I'm not that bad-ass, lol).
The same sort of applies to men.

Yes, a man's greatest fear is being cheated on. You'll be surprised to hear that actually the same does not apply for the other gender.
Women are way too much of complex creatures to have this as their biggest fear. 
Women are more afraid of ending up alone.
A life without children, without a family to call their own, that's what really scares women. To them, happiness is family. 
But for a man it's different. 
"There is no evil angel but Love"- for a man, nothing can be truer.

“Hey babe, should I take the blue cupcakes or the red ones?" Sally asked Dave indecisively.
“Uhmmmmm, the blue ones look good, babe” said Dave hastily.
“But I love the red ones, Dave, you know this”.
"So then take the red ones, love?" Dave mumbled.
"You care about nothing, you have no interest in anything EVER".

Stop.

Do you think lovely Sally broke down just because of cupcakes? I think not.

Guys voice their thoughts and opinions most of the time. Women however, they love keeping shit in, and that's when they snap about cupcakes.

Communication is the key to a successful relationship.
Even the smallest most minute things should be discussed with your significant other.

If Dave likes blue cupcakes, he'll take a blue one.
But Sally, on the other hand, is too concerned with what Dave's opinion on the cupcakes will be. While Dave is enjoying the blue cupcake, Sally will be thinking about what the choice of blue cupcakes says, and will want to know Dave's opinion on it, (only because she cares about Dave).

With women, they build and imagine situations and scenarios in their head based on the future they desire. Using this, they will base their answers and responses to scenarios and apply it to a current romantic situation in the hopes of achieving that desired outcome. It's a bit much to take in, but try and read it slowly to see if you understand what I mean.

All women are guilty of this habit.

Women tend to over-think things they really don't need to be dwelling on, because as I said, women are much more complicated.
When this happens you need to reassure your lady that she is part of your future plans and that she is your heart and soul. All that women want is recognition that they are not taking the leap of faith alone. Just remind them all the time that you guys are in it together. Because often the situations and scenarios they picture in their heads are right.

In all honesty I think it takes longer for a guy to get over a girl he was really in love with than it does for a girl to get over a guy.

Guys being the ones who "love" less or "give" less in a relationship is a primitive thing.
They take longer to get over a relationship because they were never fully invested in the first place; but by the time they realize this, it will have been too late. Perhaps the girl has already moved on, or perhaps their pride and ego won't allow them to back down and go crawling back to the woman.
Of course in this situation, it's possible that the roles could be reversed, where the women has too much pride to go back as well, but majority of the time, I'd say it's safe to put the fault with the guy.

Females move on quicker and it's not their fault.
Their natural ability is to give their all, that is why they are such emotional creatures. When they love, they love wholeheartedly.
They give their all towards a relationship and it's exhausting.
So when the relationship does end, the female party can move on quicker. It has exhausted her mind and heart too much, so she will let go.

The woman in the relationship will always hold a special place in her heart for that guy and will try her damn hardest to make it work, because that's what women do, they care. But she can't keep allowing herself to be hurt, so she has no choice but to move on.

Subconsciously all these processes take place; decisions made on natural instinct, primitive traits. Once we understand the subconscious, we'll be able to understand the heart.


Soul mates often find each other searching for the same destiny. That's why certain religious people stay together, they long for the same fate and wish to walk upon the same path.

“Seduce my mind and you can have my body. Find my soul, and I'm yours forever.”'

Seduction' is the key word when it comes to love.
All a girl needs to do is know what your assets are.
Dress according to YOU.
Body language and how you carry yourself is of utmost importance. Obviously you'll need to throw some sexy in there.
When it comes to eye contact, ladies, please be the first one to break it, otherwise you'll end up looking desperate.

I have a friend, let's call him Tom Ford. *I don't pop molly, I rock Tom Ford*
He's a crazy mother-fucker. Ladies man, super chilled. He and I are cut from the same cloth. 
(I am also sort of in love with Tom's sister, Stephanie. Just thought I'd put that out there, Tom).
After a weekend of partying, there's always one girl trying to rape Tom, hahaha.
Please love, DON'T be that girl.

Ladies, you guys need to be the person playing hard to get. But you and I both know this isn't always the case now, is it?
Let him chase after you, don't be the one's chasing because men like a challenge.
Where's the challenge and fun for the dog when the ball is dropped directly in front of him?

Tom has serious swag. With good looks and packing an extremely good conversation, it's easy to see why women are all over the guy.
But in this Game of Thrones, Tom and I both know it's not about looks.
This is where normal guys can beat Tom at his game and end up getting the girl.

In order to keep your woman happy, you need to engage her mind.
Intellectual men usually hold relationships longer. There's a reason for that.
You need to seduce her soul, touch her heart.
You need to sustain her from within.
She needs to be mentally satisfied, and sexually too of course (which counts for a lot more, honestly).
You need something greater than love.
You need be that guy that nourishes her soul from deep within.
You need to make her laugh and tell her that she's beautiful all the time.
You need to mend her heart from the past heartbreaks.
You need to be THAT guy.

But I'll leave you with a saying which I think is something you should keep in mind: "The biggest coward is a man who awakens a woman's love with no intention of loving her".
So if you are aiming to be THAT guy, don't be a douche.

Although I say men are dogs, there is a reason why you ladies do still love us.
Yes, men are dogs, but dogs are also man's best friend.
Loyal; always there; always alert; ready to protect.

Although we do tend to be animals, we also know how to take care of what's important to us.
Make us realize you're too important to lose, and we'll be there by your side, guarding and protecting for as long as we can.

But that's it for now...Mi línea de pensamiento ha pasado - my train of thought has passed.

Piece of Love

Let me start off by saying that I will contradict myself often. Hopefully you'd be smart and criticize me. I welcome it. I'm chilled.

Maybe the idea of love is intriguing. Perhaps it’s the unknown that we’re drawn to?

I honestly think we're all born not believing in love. It’s like this far away place that our imagination takes us to. We build this aura around it, and in our heads we over-think and over-populate our minds into thinking it could be real.

It's our upbringing; how we were raised by our parents that gives us this crazy desire for love.
My opinion is that humanity might have fallen in love with the idea of love, and passed it on from generation to generation.

When we do find what we think is love, the build-up to finally getting to that point is so intense, that we latch onto it and try to never let it go.

There's a time period on love and its always going to catch you. The question is, when the hour is upon you, are you in too deep?

The intensity that built you up to this moment, this chasing love, finding love, connecting with soul-mates, will that be the spark to keep your relationship alive?

After the spark dies, does the relationship die along with it?

I will drift off topic and just say that, the most powerful feeling is hope. Hope of a better tomorrow, hope of getting into heaven, hope of staying clear of hell. Hope of finding that one true love.
We hope that we can regain that initial spark that we and our significant other once shared.
Love, fueled by the fire of hope, can be a highly powerful force. Hope is what drives us human beings, and by this feeling called hope is what will make us stick through our so called 'love'.

Love is an extremely vague term. I solely believe its only about compromise and understanding. It's just way too naïve to think that you'll be in love forever. So my conclusion to this fucked up piece is that when you do fall out of love with your partner, can you make them fall in love with you again?

People change. As we grow up, we grow different.
Times change. Things around us affect us and how we treat our significant other.
Memories fade and are replaced by newer (probably less exciting) ones.
All of this takes a toll on love until eventually it’s just not there any more, or a different type of love is created.
That initial spark dies and is replaced by a love built out of convenience and maybe even one built from trust. Passionate love is replaced by complacent love. Many will realize this and will split up in the hopes of finding that “better” love. Others will choose not to split up for whatever reasons they may have. Fear is probably the biggest motivator here.

By now you should know that I understand everyone has a different opinion about this extremely vast topic we're talking about, however I think we can all agree that it has one common destination: Marriage.
Let's just touch on this subject quickly.
I know happily married couples, full stop. They've been married a while now and its hard work.

This blog I'm writing isn't for shits and giggles.

You know I can't sugar-coat this but marriage isn't what we thought it would be. The value of a relationship has changed from what it used to be.
It has changed. Just like our culture has moved from being one of quality products, to being a generation obsessed with instant gratification. We all live a McDonald’s life. We place our orders now and want our burger in 5 minutes. People tend to choose the latter, and people are opting more for quantity than quality, love is not an illusion... just harder to find. Why? I think that we have society to blame for it. And fucking movies.

Unfortunately we've evolved as humans and our brains eliminate what the possibilities and probabilities are if they don't suit us. In layman's terms we create pro's and con's, and using that we establish what can work and what cannot work.

So back to love; I hate this fucking word. It's meaningless if it can't last forever. Take a chance, that's what life's about right? What if 15 years down the line your partner packs up and leaves? They found some hot number that just does it for them. Your partner has decided to take a chance, and where does that leave you?

Why is it that second marriages work out better? Do we mature after being hurt? Are we evolving too quickly? Are we just taking the leap of faith with our significant other too soon?

People say its fear; fear of being let down, fear of letting your feelings go, fear of losing someone you gave your all to, fear of not finding another, fear of being cheated on, fear of putting someone before you, fear of feeling needy of someone else...

There's no ignoring facts and the stats on divorce rates are astonishing. I just call it like I see it, and its not fear its wisdom. Good sex obviously lengthens the years of being in love or in the actual relationship , but did u ever wonder what your relationship would've been like without sex? Do we fall in love with sex itself? Can you picture having a relationship without sex, wait let me guess your answer..

NO! I'm good right?

Great sex can fix bad relationships. Great sex even saves marriages. But when (and notice how I said when) a stage comes in your relationship where you think that you're being treated like a slut just for sex, let him pay. I'd like to say I have a non bias opinion about life and love and situations. The thing is, love is blind. Love is a made up. I've seen love, I've felt heartbreak and there's nothing great about love. People say that there are soul mates out there for us, I'd like to believe that too, but unfortunately I'm a realist. I hope you not reading this thinking, this guy is so negative, thats because you probably 18 – 25 years old, single, in a relationship or possibly happily married, but really your life has only started.

Have you ever heard of the saying 'there is no love without tragedy'?
There is no love without tragedy.

Well this is my 1st piece and I didn't want to get carried away hahahaha so hopefully you'll be waiting for my next piece.

"mi línea de pensamiento ha pasado
my train of thought has passed"